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up to our mailing list for first access to stories and intimacy development services as they become available. If you would like to share a story from your own sex life that you think others will find interesting and useful, please do get in touch at hello cambyo. Without further adieu, here is the story. Yes, even through my promiscuous university years. I never thought of polyamory as a legitimate lifestyle choice.

In fact, I never even knew what it meant. That has since changed. It all started about five months ago. I met a guy on a secret Facebook group polyamory bdsm kinky people who was explicitly looking for a submissive girl. I had been single for a couple years and was pretty discouraged after a series of either emotionally or sexually disappointing spurts of dating.

Looking for a delightful muse to build an intense, ongoing dynamic with, do unspeakable things to, and make it all better after. Not only did he pique my interest with each depraved message he sent, but we were also aligned on so many levels: our career paths, our sense of spirituality, our taste in music and our openness to things that many people might choose to shut out.

I had no idea how open things really were. I met him right at his place rather than going for drinks, because we both decided we wanted an exciting and anonymous inaugural experience. Because of the nature of how we got in touch, we both knew we were going to have sex the first time we met. So we just skipped that part. When he met me outside his condo I was happy with my decision.

He was tall and muscular, with dark blonde hair, a scruffy beard, and a loose scarf tied around his neck. Classy, but unpretentious. He put his hand on my back as we walked upstairs. He forced me down on my knees, polyamory bdsm things progressed quickly from there.

The beginning of our encounter was fierce and fiery. He was rough polyamory bdsm aggressive — throwing me around like a rag doll, just how I like it. He played on the fact that I was fucking a stranger too. On occasion I like to be recognized for my dirty mind and sexual nature. But then when it came to the physical sex, we experienced some difficulty. No judgement on my end though. So naturally the fire subsided a bit, but we still had a good time exploring each other.

The chemistry we experienced was undeniable. He was a little embarrassed, but still confident, which I liked. And I was completely unfazed, which he liked.

After a couple hours, we finished off in his bedroom. I had a moment of clarity and looked up at his walls, completely bare except for a jewelry hanger filled with gold, silver and turquoise necklaces. I already knew the answer. My mind went blank and my immediate reaction polyamory bdsm to run.

I did not imagine that being with a married man was something I could ever accept, or even wanted to for that matter. I put on my knee-high socks and black skirt, skip the panties special ordersand headed for the door. But somehow he got me to stay.

How could I ever develop a relationship or real feelings for someone who was already in a committed relationship with another person? We talked about jealousy and how it appears to stem largely from insecurity and fear. We discussed the potential solution of giving partners the freedom to be with other people, and addressing fear and jealousy internally. Like, really in love. Now comes the hard part — coming to terms with two big changes in my life: 1.

My boyfriend is married, 2. I guess that makes me polyamorous too. Briefly, polyamory means forming intimate, loving, sexual relationships with more than one person at a time. Putting the jealousy piece aside for now — this shit polyamory bdsm logistically complex. The usually exciting process of introducing my new partner to my friends and family has been quite difficult too. So I mostly stay quiet about it. When I think of my boyfriend fucking his wife, however infrequent it may be, it really hurts.

It eats away at me. The feeling extends past polyamory bdsm, by the way. Like a cold shower on an even colder day. I feel jealousy often, no matter how inificant or silly the situation might be. He reassures me that our relationship is special, and the things I bring to his life are things that no one else could give him.

A polyamorous lifestyle has opened my world to the possibility of looking at all people as having the potential for love, sex, intimacy or friendship. I like it because it establishes honesty as the framework for a successful relationship and it grants me the freedom to explore whatever I want without having to hide or give up other parts of my intimate life.

In a way, it sort of feels like having my cake and eating it too. I have the freedom to build my life with whoever I want, but I find it really challenging to avoid going on a date or sleeping with someone new just because I need to distract myself. I want to add people to my life because they bring value, not because they fill a hole polyamory bdsm pun intended.

But now I only regularly spend time with him and a girlfriend of mine her boyfriend s sometimes too, which is fun. Right now I feel really satisfied with what I have: a loving, sexually fulfilling primary relationship with some variety on the side. And by variety, I mostly mean girls. I get both, regardless polyamory bdsm whether he might give these things to someone else too. This situation has helped me live in the moment more — to appreciate each minute I spend either with him, or enjoying my own sexual adventures, while trying to avoid the trap of projecting our relationship into the future.

Would I like our relationship to last? Of course, but I have no idea whether that will happen or what that will look like if it does. Nothing is guaranteed. I now see jealousy more as something that I can acknowledge and potentially overcome rather than a complete deal breaker. Jealousy seems a lot less scary to me now, whereas before I avoided the feeling like the plague, to the point of ending perfectly good relationships over it. Now when I feel jealous, I try to remind myself that typically the idea of something or someone creating jealousy is a lot less terrible than the reality of it.

Maybe with a husband and four kids in a little house in the country. Maybe with four boyfriends and a cat in a giant commune in the city just kidding. What genuinely excites me is now I can see a world full of exciting scenarios to choose from outside the model of one partner fits all: options that include kinky sex, vanilla sex, men, women, romantic love, affection and companionship.

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